Who is more complicated gender: men or women?

Men are an open book. What you see is what you get. We are a marvellous gender.

Women? Well, Hippy summed it up yesterday when he said they should come with a user manual. Personally, I don't think that's enough. Good grief! A Ph.D in Understanding Women would scarcely be enough.

I agree with Didge and Gator. Women are the more complicated gender biologically, hormonally, mentally, sexually and physically. However just because we have female parts doesnt automatically make us know other females better either. I think being less "complicated" actually comes from deeply knowing a person. After being on Blurtit this long I feel like you guys are true family. I would rather spend a Blurtit Thanksgiving then with certain blood family members. To me they are complicated and you all I understand better.

Hi Stuart,

I have been considering your interesting Q...

I think men and women (ideally) help each other...and then, the complexity is just equally human. Men seem less complex because of a hormone structure that is very direct - grunt, smash.

But with women they care for, men will get a grip and soften; that is when you see their real beauty and depth and complexity emerge. Women, on the other hand, can get lost in the details, trying to figure it out with all the contingencies...and men can show us how to just lose all the extraneous stuff and go directly to the essence.

And I actually do think I see that kind of complementarity here on Blurt, and it is lovely.

Women are completely impossible to understand. The General Unified Theory (whenever they finish it)  will be easier to understand than the simplest woman.

Worst of all, they are not even trainable.

(I do love them all though.... Sadly.......)

Women, but that is by design. Biologically speaking we have had to be. If you go back to the days of the hunters and gatherers, Women had to stay behind and feed the children and themselves, as well as shelter, and protect the children. Men just out get food and bring it back. And they would make sure there would be more children. Women have always had to live a more complicated life.

Women appear more complicated than men because they like to be understood and to understand. They also spend their life looking out for little people and having to prejudge certain situations to keep little people safe. There handbags often reflect this "Just in case" attitude.

We are also brought up in a society where dancing around a topic is considered more polite than being direct because of "feelings." Feelings are everywhere and are made of egg shells and so they are very easy to tread on. So we are taught to wrap questions up in ribbons and bows, because saying what we mean comes across as "blunt or rude."

Where as men take things as they are, they deal with emotion by smashing something with tools, driving fast, drinking a beer, shouting at the TV. Woman want to share, they want a bit more detail, to access situations, men usually give us women a "grunt" if we are lucky, and we have no idea what that "grunt" means O_o

I mentioned this only anecdotally.

My wife recently said that she thought she knew me pretty well, but she has been amazed (in a very good way) at some of the things she is discovering about me.

(And one of the reasons I married her was her unique ability to evaluate people coupled with a degree in psychology.)

She's always known how I work, but she is discovering more layers.

And we just celebrated 35 years (emerald or jade and I don't really like jade).

Interesting.....