"People who need people are the luckiest people in the world." So sang Barbra Streisand, but is it true? What do you think?

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Aldrich Ames Profile
Aldrich Ames answered

Not really. Life is cruel. So is humanity. The person you NEED to live with and love with all your heart knowing you can lose them the next day or even right now or they can turn out to be a huge *BLEEP* and betray you. I'm not one to need people. I've lost a lot of people in my life and I've always been cold hearted and pretended to feel sorrow and emotions. Never actually cried. I accept that. I find it very easy to move on from losing people. There are some people who I love as everyone does. But if you're dying desperately for a shoulder to cry on since you're lonely, I doubt you're very lucky. Maybe there's a different meaning to this or something?? I don't get it.

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Jann Nikka answered

Since, I have been force to be alone, I now know I only need the bare few basics and TV :)

Barbara was singing to make money.

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Jann Nikka
Jann Nikka commented
Sir, I apologize I came off so very harsh. Sometimes, I speak when my brain is still half empty. I apologize.
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
No need. It's just another ripple in our on-going friendship. :)
Jann Nikka
Jann Nikka commented
Your super sweet to put up with my bipolar butt ;)
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Jaimie JT answered

I know for sure it is true :) I really really really went through a phase in my life when I wanted to not need anyone ...  I wanted to want to be alone and I thought I deserved to be .... I'm a very social person so despite my wanting to impose self misery on myself I just couldn't ... I'm very good at pulling people in when I need them ..and .do need them :) ... I  Make my luck :) I don't care for Barbara music though ... I like this one instead :)

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Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
I can understand how that would make a difference to somebody who was social. I'm happiest when I'm at home with Mrs D. Thanks for the song. I enjoyed it.
Jaimie  JT
Jaimie JT commented
:) you're welcome
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Ancient Hippy answered

I LIKE people but I don't NEED them. It would be a lonely existence without other people to interact with though.

AnnNettie Paradise Profile

I would say this is true, especially in this loveless world in which we live in. This is ever true of the elderly. I personally experience that when I show expression of affection toward them it really make a difference! Furthermore, our affection shows respect for their dignity. It can also be rewarding when our affection are expressed toward those who worried, depressed, or insecure.

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Matt Radiance answered

We have people here who talk about the unnecessary "need" of others in their lives. I could easily say that too because half of my life already been down to that path. But i'm going to approach this from a different perspective.

I believe the world is like a puzzle and every single person together creates the final image. Therefore, we all need each other at the end of the day. This is the perspective.

Your fridge is empty. You need a market man to buy your required products from.

Your house is broken, you need a contractor to fix it for you.

You get sick, you "need" a doctor to fix you.

You're out of money, you "need" someone to hire you and they can easily not do that despite your knowledge.

You have a talent, you "need" someone's favor and investment to give you the opportunity to show your talent and prove yourself.

Societies around the world constantly need "farmers" . We need banks and it's people. We need businessman, producers and companies. We need scientists, researchers. Where all these technologies came from that makes our life super comfortable?

We need policeman, fireman, nurses and our workers communities.

We need each other.

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Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
Matt, that's an absolutely brilliant answer. I think it's far beyond Bob Merrill's idea (he wrote the lyrics) but it's unarguable. Life would have little joy if we were completely isolated.

Incidentally, even Bob would never have been the success he was if it hadn't been for Suzie.

He was a song-writer who couldn't write music and he got around it with a xylophone named Suzie and, he said, while other song-writers used staffs and quavers and crotchets, he ended up with a page of numbers, signifying the notes on the xylophone. Eventually he learned to play the piano and by the time he wrote People he was able to produce a regular musical score.
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
Matt, if you haven't seen it, you should check out Biker Girl's answer, below.
Matt Radiance
Matt Radiance commented
Thank you Didge :)
Here's a brilliant example of how we can impact each other!
earlier i was thinking we are also constantly in need of our people in the past! i was thinking if we believe we don't need anyone, the first thing we need to do is to cut off our electricity power. because we don't need Edison do we!? he's the man who shown us how to use this natural electricity power within the planet! so if we don't need "anyone" we don't need him either!
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Toxic Hairball answered

Streisand made a mint on that song, but honestly, I think the entire sentiment is wrong, even backward. I can't think of many advantages to being needy, I think it's a more fortunate position to BE NEEDED.

The luckiest people, in my opinion, are the ones who already have all they need, and can share it with others. Just saying.

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Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
I was looking at it more-or-less from your point of view but Matt Radiance made an excellent argument for needing people. Different slant, of course, but he's not wrong.
Toxic Hairball
Toxic Hairball commented
I read Matt's comment but I think he reinforces my point. Its great to have the types of people he described, but the fact of needing them is not lucky.
Bikergirl Anonymous Profile

I have a slightly different perspective ..

I think we as human beings are much like any other socially dependant animal. It's in our nature to 'need' others.  Our survival as individuals and as a community depends on it.

Much like animals, we come into the world needing the care and protection of a parent, as well as the care and protection of an entire pack.  As we age and grow, we, as members of a community become contributors by becoming the protectors as well as being the protected. We not only grow and develop in a physical sense .. But an emotion sense. We are a species that developmentally depends on something else other than food and protection .. We, because we are emotional beings,  also depend much on love.  Anyone who is devoid of the ability to love is mentally and emotionally  'damaged' .. There's even terms for it .. a form of antisocialism like a sociopath or psychopath.

So .. As much as you'd like to think you don't 'need' anyone, as a human being that maybe be a little distorted. We all know what happens to people (and even animals) who are isolated without any contact with others .. It actually has a very detrimental affect on the brain .. It makes you crazy .. Litterally.

I know people would like to think they don't 'need' anyone to love or to love them .. They only 'like' having someone to love, because it supports their ability to 'choose' the someone .. The truth is .. Yes, you do have the ability to choose the 'who' but from a very fundamental level you don't have a choice on whether or not you need to be loved.

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Matt Radiance
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i would mention a movie called "Castaway" it's a greatest example to observe. where a human stuck in a small Island for years, he turn a ball into a face with his blood so he could feel a physical present of someone else and communicate and talk with him. a total subconscious need of our species. when you look at it you see sometimes it goes beyond a normal conversation. the character pours and shares his pains, fears and emotions with the made-up person. i think the term of " i don't need anyone" can sometimes be expressed for a particular event, like "i can do this on my own, i don't need help for this" but in whole life, one way or another we all need each other. just like two hands; "live together, die alone"
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
Two other examples spring to mind. The punishment of solitary confinement, and the social rejection caused by sending somebody to Coventry. Neither is a very pleasant prospect.
Bikergirl Anonymous
Exactly my point

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